We recently posted up a live video on Our Facebook page with the title “Big Announcement” and people were making guesses before we even got to the good part. “O hamile!” with a reply shortly after “What? who is pregnant?”
Of course our pals and family always ask us: “When are you men going to have kids?” and numerous readers ask us “What if you have kids? how could you travel then?”
Well the truth is, at this time we have no plans to have a baby and the announcement was actually about travel! If we did decide to go down that path, it wouldn’t end our travelling lifestyle, it’s just not something we want in our lives best now.
Will We ever have Kids?
We have always been the type of people who live by the “never say never” philosophy, so even though we don’t see any children in our future, that could always change. Our life is an open road and we don’t allow speed bumps and stop signs to keep us from turning whichever way we please.
If we all of a sudden feel the overwhelming urge to have a child, then our entire minds may change all of a sudden and we might just opt for it. It would just be another fantastic adventure and one that we couldn’t possibly understand until we experienced it.
Our life is always susceptible to enormous change. before we started travelling, we had just recently purchased and furnished a condominium, thinking that would be our life plan… but things changed rapidly and soon we sold everything and left on a year long trip.
We never really “planned” to instruct English in China. We got the idea after volunteering in Myanmar and while we were travelling in China we just chose to answer an ad on a hostel wall and voila.
We love that our life is full of spontaneity and excitement and while a kid would require some advanced planning, we are not fully against it, but at this time we just don’t see it.
What if we did have kids? would we still travel?
Kesinlikle. 100%. Our lifestyle would not change entirely just because we had a kid. I can hear the comments at the bottom of this post already. “You can’t travel with kids full-time!” “They need to go to school!”, “Children need normality and routine”, “What about their education?!”.
Those are all valid points to be made, but we strongly believe that the road is the best school for a child. Of course, people can disagree with that idea. everyone is totally free to have their own opinion. Our opinion is that children learn much more from cultural immersion and world exploration than they ever could from books and classrooms.
We didn’t always think this way. before we started travelling I thought that all kids ought to be in front of a teacher 6 hours a day, 5 days a week. but travel has taught me something. aslında hayır. fantastic parents who travel with their kids have taught me something. children can flourish in a travelling environment too.
If you follow inspiring travel blogs like TravelWithBender.com and yTravelBlog.com, you’ll start to realize that children can flourish in a nomadic lifestyle. They can stimulate parts of their brains that they would never use at home and focus on things that they are good at, rather than being forced to change from classroom to classroom, despite having apparent talent in one area.
We met a couple who currently live in Grenada, but have also lived in numerous different parts of the world. A kind of nomadic family. Their children were all home schooled from a young age and their oldest daughter is a testament to how fantastic this can be for kids. She is bright, articulate, sociable, intelligent and extremely mature.
If we were to have kids, they would stay on the road with us. They would of course learn the basics of math, language, science and history, but they would be encouraged to spend much more time on studies that they’re passionate about.
The unschooling method is becoming much more and much more popular and people are finally starting to see the defects in conventional schools. When I was a kid, I was outstanding at english, photography and visual arts media (video editing), yet I spent far more time learning science, math, law, history and social studies.
Luckily, after school I eventually found my way back to my passion. I now write, take photos and create videos for a living. had I spent twice as much time learning about those subjects in school however, I probably would have figured this all out much sooner and would likely also be much much more skilled in these fields than I am today.
If we ever have kids, they will be taught on the road. They will be introduced to the world. I wouldn’t say to them: “You know that kids in Africa are very hungRy ve sebzelerinizi yemiyorsun ”. Onları gösterirdim.
Bir ders kitabında Giza piramitlerine işaret etmek ya da belgesellerden ve fotoğraflardan Karayipler’de kölelik hakkında bilgi vermek zorunda kalmayacaktım, onları oraya getirir ve onlarla tarihin bir parçası olurken, onlara nasıl olduğunu gösterirdim gelecekte hayatlarını daha iyi yaşamak.
Evet… çocuklarımız dünyevi olurdu ve biz hala onlarla seyahat ederdik. Sadece farklı bir seyahat ve farklı bir macera türü olurdu.
Neden çocukları istemiyoruz?
Çocukları sevmediğimiz değil. Çocukları severim.
Şey… Alışveriş Merkezi, Uçak, Otel, Restoran, Plaj veya Bar’da Çığlık atan ve Yeri Çeviren Çığlık atan ve Çeviren Bar’da olmadığımda…
Ama genel olarak iyi davranan çocukları seviyorum.
3 çarpıcı küçük yeğenim var ve onları neredeyse yeterince görmesem de, onlarla vakit geçirmeyi seviyorum. Onlar sevgililer ve beni her zaman gülümsetiyorlar.
Çin’de İngilizce öğrettiğimizde, sabahları ne kadar bitkin veya huysuz olsak da, küçük öğrencilerimizin gülümseyen yüzlerini görür görmez onlarla gülümserdik. Onlarla güler, onlarla oynar ve harika zaman geçiririz.
Öyleyse neden çocuk istemiyoruz?
Şu anda, sadece birbirimizle vakit geçirmeyi seviyoruz. Tabii ki, bir ebeveynin çocukları için sahip olduğu sevgiyi asla düşünemedim, ama şu anda Darip’in ve birbirimize sahip olduğumuz sevgiden memnun hissediyorum ve bundan bir dakika uzaklaşmak istemem.
Yeğenlerimizle vakit geçirmeyi seviyoruz. Ama aynı zamanda bir gün bebek bakıcılığı yaptıktan sonra onları kardeşime geri vermemizi de seviyoruz. Her zaman barışa geri dönebileceğimizi ve birbirleriyle sessiz kalabilmemizi seviyoruz.
Ayrıca kendiliğinden olabilmeyi ve istediğimizi yapma özgürlüğüne sahip olmayı seviyoruz… bir hevesle.
Sonuç olarak
Şu anda sadece çocuk sahibi olmayı planlamıyoruz. Öyleyse bize sormayı bırak! haha. Çocukları seviyoruz, hayatlarımızı değiştirmelerine izin vermeyecektik, çocukların yolda geliştiğine inanıyoruz, ama şimdilik birbirimizle birlikte olmak istiyoruz. Belki bu yolda değişecektir. Belki hayır.
Keçi yavrularının da çocuk denir. Belki sadece bir bebek keçisi satın alacağız ve “Bir çocuğumuz vardı!” adlı kısa bir makale yazacağız. Muhtemelen bunu 1 Nisan 2017 için kurtaracağız.
Ne düşünüyorsun? Çocuk ister misin? Çocuklarınız var mı? Onlarla tam zamanlı seyahat eder misiniz?
Bu gönderi gibi mi? İğnele!
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